Let me start the post by bigging up Ms. cutie (ma mother), one of the few good women left in the world...lol...yea i said it!! and in the word D'Angel ---- AN'SO!!!
With that said....back to ma topic, what do women really want? do they want companionship? a man who can provide them with material things? a quick fix? or do they just want not to be lonely, my guess is..women want different things at different stages of their lives.
Women, although very strong are also very impressionable, i think a girl can have a perfectly good relationship until one of her likkle "fly batty" frenz role in with some "good advice", which they never choose to administer until you and your girl is on bad terms, the result....trials and crosses.
But sometimes they dont even have to wait until you and your girl on the rocks, they'll come around showing off their "loot" which they have obtain from the collection of boyfriends, trying to temp your girl and fellas if your girl is weak...trust me, they will stray even for a second and i know the girls reading this blog are like.."a wah kinda girls ryan sean him a meet"...lol...but trust me ladies, like a good man who don't cheat - these girls do exist!
But on the other hand, you have the good girls, who won't cheat on their men, never ever ever never...can't say i have met such a girl personally but i hear they are around somewhere, but back to the topic.....what do women really want, i think a women like all human being can never be satisfied with what they posses now, they more they get is the more they want - they have and insatiable appetite to get as much as they can while they can.
Now fellas, knowing this bit of info. fret not yourself wondering what a woman wants or needs, or if you can ever provide her with total satisfaction, because truth be told WE CAN'T, my take is to give her your best, give her your entirety, women might seem very complex, which yea..at times they are, but it's the simplest of things which they treasure.....attention, honest, love and if you can afford it..a 1okarat diamond encrusted ring...lol...lol..but on a real, simple things means alot to "some" women and notice I said some.
Most women just want to feel secure, protected and loved...once u can provide any of these attributes, then your only worry will be that nagging and pestering "fly batty" friend.
I wanna hear from the ladies!!! wat do ya'll want!!
NB: Ryan Sean didn't mean to offend any of the "fly batty" friends, and if any of ya'llreading this post - I just want to say - GET YOUR OWN MAN and leave ppl and dem man alone...lol
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Bwoy Sean u a grow up man.....those are exactly the things SOME women want (like urs truly) and of course a baby (lol)...or maybe that's just me.
Ry as suzette say "Bwoy Sean u a grow up man....." anyhoo, here is my take, women are just like men, its just that we can't do what the boys do(publicly) and still be a lady(or a good girl). However, we are all human and get greedy sometimes BUT at the end of day when it comes on to a man, give me respect then love then EVERYTHING ELSE...But if I had to choose, I will take good love(not the toxic one) over money, I choose love AND I AM ONE MONEY HUNGRY chick.
I want the pillow talk and the good night kiss and the last name and the 2ct ring..LOL!!!!
I'll go a bit further.. Niggaz of this day and age are becoming the same. They doing the same shit you outlined women as doing...
at the end of the day they just people just like men who all fall fictem to greed. failing to satisfy with what one has..
as john mayer said in the song another kind of green - " girl you dont need to loose it to know that you had it good"
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I can categorically stated that most woman cannot be satisfied until she decides to stop hungering over stuff.
A girl wont stop 'bad' until she decideds that she wants to.
Thats why personally mi nuh fraid a bun, matter of fact I welcome it. Cuz it just means I can stop waste time and move onto the next victim.
What do I want?....
A friend who will listen to my silly jokes and laugh with me.
A sounding board for all the little ideas floating around up top.Somebody to be my conscience should I begin to stray. Somebody I can hang out n have fun with.Somebody considerate who doesn't have this shit ass, chauvinistic notion of what a woman's role in life should be. Somebody to share my secrets with and who is equally open with me. Somebody who is honest or at least a horrible liar so I know when hez slipping up. Somebody who loves n isn't afraid to show it. A person who isn't possessive (think this shoulda been at the top of my list).Somebody who is baby father material n husband type. On a more superficial side I'd like him to be a looker preferably or at least somebody I can take out in the daytime. N the most important point I should make is that men have fly batty frenz too so he should have a mind of his own and should be able to make sensible independent decisions (that work in my favour all or at least most times :-)).I'd like the ring that makes my left hand dip a bit when I try to lift it but if hez most or everything i want then he can get me a little one n jus love me enuff to mek up the difference.May sound like alot but they're out there ... not perfect cuz they still do the shitty things men seem programmed to do at times but the most important aspects are there.
Stopping now cuz I think I might just have covered most, if not all the things the good girls want from a guy (Hint hint I'm one of the good girlz :-)). Some of Ryanz encounters apparently might be a bit different :-) hush yute
well to be honest sunshine...I haven't come in contact with any of the girls I mentioned, it's just based on situations I've seen and heard from men and women alike - I have some sistrens who will tell it like it is..when it comes to them and their relationships
Lol just to highlight what Ryan Sean said in a relationship women do treasure.....attention, honest, love etc. But most of all the most important factor that I would chereish in a relationship is companship. I think once that bond has been made in a relationship my fly batty gurl fren would have to come strong break the relationship that me and my man have. However, to have this great companiship that some gurls want it takes a lot of time so that mean men sometimes you just need to wait before you jump in if you know what I mean (fucking 4 who dont understand) for relationships to atually work and then after that I am sure the treasures will come
Ok sean, i must say this was a pleasure to read, and i agree with every word. But we also have to ask the question, what do men want? Women are complex creatures, but there are a few great ones as you suggested, and yeah each one of us has that "fly batty" friend. Most of ma frens are male, so i understand y'all myself. Not all of us, want the diamond ring, the big house, the big car and the name brand clothes. Frankly I can get that on ma own, and sorry i have to brag, i just bought myself a brand new 2008 honda, yes i did, with the help of god. A real woman wants a man, who's honest (becuz honesty goes a long way), a real man who isnt afraid to keep it real with a woman, be yourself, be a gentleman, dont be a bitch and try to disrespect your woman, a man who will be there for his woman, a man who will give it to her the right way, a man who a woman can admire and have fun with. A man who is not afraid to tell his lady, yow imma hang with the boys and imma be home late.A man you can grow with, who can be your best critic, and man who can be your friend no matter what. A man who will give his lady a bathe if she's sick, a man who will be by his lady's side, if he got her pregnant, a man who isnt afraid to tell his lady he appreciates her. A man who will tell his woman when she's wrong, let her know when you disagree with her, a man who isnt afraid to disagree and who isnt afraid to agree, a man who isnt afraid to lift his woman up when she's down. Lets not 4get the sex yow, some men talk the talk and cant walk to the fucking walk, fellas do as you say yow, and allow a good woman to show you your worth yow. I could go on and on, but i dont wanna bore you. I just described what i want, and trust me all the men so far are either far 4m the above description, or cant come close. Men now a days live by the word of the street, and forget what a real man lives by.
Like i said, you got alot of women, who don't know there head from there foot, hence, doesnt know what they want, i can't speak for them, I can only speak for myself.
Well, Tammy basically said it all..... ladies get the material stuff u dam self and concentrate on the things that really matter, which is finding urself a good man. And if y'all don't know what that is, the characteristics are listed under Tammy's comment. As far as these so called "fly batty" friends, they usually have bad relationships or don't have a man themselves so u shouldn't be taking advice from them anyway.
Very thoughtful blog,
My only question is, and I would love to here form the men, Why is it that men always ask the question of what woman wants? Will you ever find the answer, that is like asking a person who committed suicide, "Why?" Or a murderer the same. You will never get a straight answer. How about instead, my brothers, ask what you want in a woman an look for those particular qualities. It is an endless search when you try to find out what woman want and adhere to those ideals. Woman spend a life time searching for Mr. Right, or what they think is Mr. Right; why not, men, you do the same. Don't you think you deserve Ms. Right.
Tammy and m-Taye!
You all got the right idea. Right on sisters!
Asking what women want has been a life-long question and I doubt there is a set answer to this question, everybody is different. What jaz may want it not the same thing that m-taye might want.
I think that in a bid to identify what women want m-taye, jaz and the other women told what they want from men. I am sure that if we minus the usual text-book wants e.g .love, caring, honest, listener and all th other set-in-stone needs sunshine, jaz, m-taye and the other women will have completely different wants and needs.
Who to tell, suppose jaz is a girl who will settle for a good dose of rylenol to put her to sleep and m-taye will have herself a srving of baddavid to keep her up at nights ;)?
Just like people commit suicide or murders for different reasons, everyone is different and if women were all the same I am sure there would be a "what women want for dummies" book tied to the famous teaching series of books.
It is for the man however to identify wat his woman want and deliver and i doubt he will be able to satisfy them all unless they grew under the same circumstances and received the same treatment and lessons growing up.
more to come....
K'riq,
You raise an interesting argument. In fact, I agree with some of the things you have stated. Just as Sean's post stated, women are complex and this question is impossible to answer. So why not stop asking it.
However you stated that I mentioned what I wanted from men. That is quite the opposite of my argument. In fact, I oppose "the usual text-book list wants." And I think it is important for woman to think of men as a beautifully created being, just as they would expect men to think of them.
Sean you sparked something!
LOL!
Have a joyful day!
so it would seem jaz, people a overdose pon the rylenol and all these tings!
ok ryan sean i will leave a comment...first of all..i hope CT and myself do not fall into the category of "fly batty" frenz...and even if we do i know u cannot say we have given you advise u didnt need to hear...anyhoo...as u say women are complicated...and some dont know what they want while others do...as for me...the i want the usual "loving,caring..blah blah"...but u can find man who has all of those qualities and there is no chemistry..so for me chemistry is very important...he has to be able to make me laugh...he has to have a drive for something..whether career wise or personally and always looking to better himself...i like man who understands that i go for what i want..and not be intimidated by it..or my brain power either...i want somebody i can be stupid around..and who can be stupid around me..as that shows comfort...dont be afraid to show me u love me either...i can buy my own things...but getting them from him is even better..and as u said the simple things are also what really matters.
"What do women really want??"......... Hmmm ummm hmmm hmmmm
thinking hmmm hmmm..... i feel a headache coming on....thinking really hard ummm hmmmm.....i still dont know WTF women really want....hmm... you know what, fck that!!! I'm not gonna waste my time or my energy thinking about what women want, its gonna take foreva just to decipher that shit......I'm gonna get what i need b4 she gets what she wants.....Me first!!! Women damn well kno what they want from u from the first time they lay their eyes on u.....Sometimes they play games... throw tantrums etc jus to get wat they want.... to see how much power u gonna give them. If she gonna give u bun there aint shit u can do about it.... Just move the fck on with ur life. Some girls r nice and some girls r whores...Just remember this, they (women) have the Power but we (men)have the Choice. Power corrupts and absolute power corrupts absolutely.
Wow my pervious brother..u seem like seem like u are thanking god for this blog as we speak so that u could have said ur piece. well good for u, at least u got rid of her..cause from the tone of that comment ther was a "her". anyway addressing the point..women want alot of things.. at times too much.. we want it all sometimes and other times we want nothing. honestly its a gamble. and guys just as much as gurls have to hope they get a good hand because trus me ther is no way anyone will be able to get al the things them lookin for initially, so is either u settle or move on. And ryan.. no need to be callin the ppl dem gyal pickney "fly batty" cause wat does that say about ur gurl for havin a tone a fly batty frenz in the first place..lol
I agree with much of what is being said here, there's no pain like the pain of being hurt by a girl weh u rate, love or check for, but at the end of the day - as nigel said, we have the choice to either move on or stay and fight, and sometimes believe it or not giving up is much harder than trying. So it really makes nuh sense somtimes to kill up urself figuring out wat they want...or trying to please them. If your best is not good enuff then...bwoy...move on i guess..hmm. Some women just can't be pleased thats is what i think..
Well most of it true still.. but some women are more fixated on all that but without being fully pleasured "sexual" some of them WILL stray.. that's a fact, but other than that, good girls require all that you said man.. keep blogging..
we want what we want, until we get what we want, then we want something else!!! Its all in conquering then we get bored and move on...DVN
ryan... honestly i don't know what women want, but i know what melly wants... someone thats FUN!!!... honestly, most girls will say they want all the nice stuff, which i personally find to be a load of crap if ur under 40, hence why so much ppl get bun & relationships fail... but what i do know, is like all humans, we wan't what we can't have.
looking back for me, all of my exes are different, i have love for all of them, i was compatible with all of them & i treasure my experiences with them, but i wouldn't go back to none of them (yes not even '#14'!!) cuz what i wanted then is not what i wanted now, the guy i'm dating now is great, but we'll see how long he lasts... as you grow ur needs change & this i know u, ryansean, knows personally. i don't need sumbody i can 'be myself around' & 'talk to', cuz i'm always myself & me & anybody can talk, even if is cuss we cussing... what i do need, is sum1 that can adapt to my growing needs, so i can have a lasting relating, since i'm growing & my needs are changing, cuz i mean honestly, if i in school, y do i need a working man with goals?? is he paying my school fee?? no!!... a mistake women make is to have sum unnecessary wants, & want this, this & that, his goals don't necessarily affect our relationship now & future planning isn't necessary unless its birth control or u have an engagement ring.
ahh... "fly batty" frenz, i have them... actually u r one of them as well... don't deny it, u come with u comments, "melly, don't u think u should give the man a break" or "melly this" * "melly that"... & what i have learned is to not listen to them. jus talk to u person, cuz most times, u "fly batty" frenz don't have nobody anyhow.
baddavid... i actually like what u said
ragan, m-taye & tammy... good points!
nigel... u shouldn't even bodda to comment, u sound too cold & bitter & whateva u got, u deserved, cuz u made the 'choice'!
well as it has be said before, we women can't be please and i'm not gonna lie, I get tired of men quite easily, they way i see it, different men can bring different things to the table. so yes, I can't be pleased and MEN it just depends on what you have to offer to us when we are in our "stage" me, like most other girls will love you to death today and just not feel you tomorrow - you be getting no calls , texts nothing, its like you never existed to me.
Just the way of the world i guess
XOXOXO
well..ms.widow (if i can call you that) do you think it's good, to go around and be "using men" or playing with their emotions like that?? do you believe in KARMA? aren't you afraid of the repercussions?
well in support of those who have people man...well, the men are dieing out and turning gay, therefor the availability of men is declining rapidly which limits that amount of men for women. so dats sum argument for women who have other people man, nutten no really wrong...AS LONG AS A NO MY MAN INNA DI MIX..lol..dat would be a different story.
touching the issue of what women want. i do agree with u that women want different things in different stages of their lives, and frenz, the "fly batty" ones have a great influence. well in my book and from my own perspective, women generally want honesty, a man to always be there whenever she needs him, companionship, sumone who will treat her like a queen, sumone who will be here biggest fan, a baby daddy material and husband material in one (lol), sumone who always remember important dates, sumone who will always try to please her in whatever way, security...especially financial security, and that doesnt mean that she is a gold digger or whatever, comfort, and also a man that can at times be her bestfriend, her confidant, her other half, her supporter, her representative, her teacher, and her advisor.
What Women want? Not a very easy question to answer. But I think I have an idea. I’m like William in girlfriends always around nuff girl and me listen to what them say and pre how them think and honestly them no different from us. Women are never satisfied the more you give, is the more them want and if them realize you nah give them what them want. Them ago “bun him” like what me fren Macka say and speaking on what you said Ryan all women give bun just like all men give bun sometimes twice a day. You just nah pick it up. We are all human and you just need to keep changing to facilitate your other half needs, because you’re always growing and your needs are never going to be the same…
Ok everyone, I think we need to go see Nigel cus he cud use our shoulders n some counselling and Sean…no more Rylenol, I think its messing wid ppls sense of composure.
I am personally still on the quest to truly find the hidden pillar of stone with all the guidelines that will aid in the never endin learnin process. I think, like most ppl have stated, that wat women want may vary from person to person so the question shud ultimately be reworded (and coined by me) as bein…”wat does ur woman want?” wat a man need fi do wen him decide seh him ago tek up a girl n call her his, is to find out wat she wants and see how best he can satisfy her. Tailorfittin ur wants is very essential if u every expect to lessen how much tantrums she will throw n how much she complains. Wen u think she wants one thing she really wants something else. Communication is key n it is true that as she gets order n more mature her wants will change; try to grow wit her. Try and find a means by which u can get her to be expressive wit u, and like Tammy n Melly, she mite tell u it formally otherwise u mite affi observe fi see the big picture.
Contrary to wat some ppl mite think, “fly batty frens” are good to have around, they ultimately serve some purpose n like Melly said, Ryan is one n am sure nuff a unnu n him a fren lol!
Someone wrote this anonymously …”we want what we want, until we get what we want, then we want something else!!! …” and it is so fuckin tru cus I’ve met my fair share of girls like that.
Overall everybody made good points and it will help in the quest.
Big Ryan Sean u large!
Fellas dont be fooled thinking that woman dont know what they want ... every single baxide woman know exactly what they want every single time down to the T ... but what they love to do is pretend as if they DONT
know what they want cause dem love when the guy takes charge (dem mussi call it initiatave or some fart like that ... mi nu know). I guess dem wah see if u know what is it that they like so dem can see if u really interested or wah. Tiny example:
Guy: U hungry?
Girl: Yea
Guy: What u wanna eat?
Girl: I dunno ... what u wanna eat?
Guy: Anyting jus tell mi wah u want
Girl: I dunno ... i'm up for anything too
Guy: Jus easy nu man tell mi wah u want
Girl: It dont matter i'll eat anything u want
Guy: Ok lets go to Juicy Beef
Girl: Hell no i dont want no patty
Guy: But u jus seh u'll eat anything
Girl: Anything except that
Guy: rass! ... ah sah ... wah u want den?
Girl: Anyting
Guy: Dont tell mi anyting cause u jus seh u nu want no fucking Juicy beef and dats anyting ....
Girl: I dont feel fo dat
Guy: Ok Burger King
(Take note: the girl know wah she rass want fi eat she jus want the guy to be the decision maker ... but although she want the guy to be the decision maker, she not gonna settle for what she dont want and she wont jus tell u what she want and stop waste rass time.)
Girl: No
Guy: AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRHHH!
and this will continue for the entire day till the day done and u dead fi hungry.
This example can be applied to all aspects of the "what a girl wants" situation. It can apply to sex, breaking up, any rass ting ... girls jus dont wanna get it in their heads that man nu have time fi a try read unno minds, jus come out and say it, whatever it is. Will yah!!!
The only time a girl will come out and tell what really going on in her head is when she see that text in your fone from the other chick on the side ... Yep! ... thats when she explode and u dont have to ask no questions, u get everyting straight up, plan, clear and to the point ... this is when they know what they want ... they give u the ultimatums and u be like "shit! i neva know u coulda make a decision" , they tell u how they feel and u have no problem understanding at this point.
Man! I coulda go on and on, but i gotta get back to work ... so women ... we know u like a macho man that takes the initiative and plays the leader ship role...and we understand this ... but y'all dont have to leave every rass ting for us to figure out ... sometimes its best to jus come out an say whats on your mind, resolves the situation and if there was an argument jus skip the chit chat and lets have some make-up-sex.
is like yuh know d ting suffa!! lol ..i hate it when women do that...i guess is some mind games ting dem a try...dunno..why do you that ladies??
I am not able to make a general comment because different ppl want different things at different times in their lives. Thanks for the big up Sean it’s hard to be a good woman when you have so few allies out their.
With that said...yes I want companionship, yes I want material things, yes I want a quick fix at times and I sometimes need to be left alone.
Everyone is impressionable, especially guys, because they often more than not NEED to impress their "fly batty" frenz. While women may be driven by good reasoning men thrive on their ego and hence fall prey to the advice of their "fly batty" niggas. Thatz why the relationship on the rocks in the beginning which leaves the girl wondering if this is as good as it gets.
Please note well Ryan you can never ever ever fully satisfy a woman nor can a woman do it for a man. The only individual who can ever truly satisfy a person is self. Only you know what you want and only you can ensure that those needs are taken care of, whether by yaself or thru other avenues.
Now fellas, do not take relationship advice from Ryan or anyone else for that matter. If you need relationship advice ask the person who yuh deh wid, only they know what they want.
To answer the question at caption, "What do women really want?".....Communication...only then and there will you ever be able to know how to feed her insatiable appetite, whether it be clothes and jewellery or love and affection or honestly and charisma.
As always Chully
Well Ryan i must say that there are still women out there that will never cheat...I'm the perfect example.Yes there are temptations but if u dont put urself out there and in the situation then it wont happen to you. Afterall ma momma didnt raise no SLUTT (no apologies to all who are offended)!!!
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