The issue of cheating men has been around since the beginning of time, but in this modern day and age should women just stop complaining and get with the program? Let me start off b stating some facts. Things I know actual happened or are happening now.
- Girl #1 broke up with the father of her child while she was pregnant because he had another girl, who was also pregnant. And to top it off both baby mamas lata found out that he also had a sweet heart-at the same time! Since then she has established a four year relationship with a married man, father of three and is quite happy with seeing him Tuesdays, Thursdays and every other Saturday. And on some special occasions.
- Girl #2 fell in love with her boss, her 1st love and he was married with five kids. She later had his sixth child, he bought her a house and a car and they have been together for 16 long yrs. She now works with him at his establishment alongside the wife and other kids from the marriage. Ask me how they explain this to ppl. And to make matters worse he lata had his seventh child with a 3rd woman (dunno much about that, the kid is about 3yrs now) but he still got his wife and 1st mistress.
- Girl #3 met her lover at a party who told her up front that he had a 4yr relationship. She had some doubts but the sex convinced her and now she’s meeting the family staying over on weekends and profiling with the guy like is her man.
- Girl #4 found out her man of 4yrs was cheating on her, asked him for how long, he said two months and she said end it please. Just like that!! No arguments no weeping no discussion. Oh and she asked him to never do it again.
Ppl believe me these are a few of the true stories that I know. I am sure others might know of similar circumstances.
Back to the point, are we living in a society where its share or never fuck. Share or never have the warmth of a man cuddled up nxt to you. Share or nvr have the satisfaction that there is a man by your side to comfort you in times of need. Share or nvr get your hair and nails did. Share or nvr drive a Range Rover. I aint saying be a Ho but there are women out there who have had to face the harsh reality that good men are rare and for the lucky ladies who copped them first are you willing to share?
Now this might seem like a very wide topic but what I am trying to say is, women have we settled for cheating men or are we just playing the cards that life dealt us. Cuz fur sure there is but so far that the “Independent woman” and “I got ma girls” bullshit talk can take us in this life.
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I will never knowingly share my straiht up man, NEVER!!!....my man on the side however, I will share but only with the woman that I met him with, him cant add nobody else in the mix and me stick around.... that's all for now...so much more to say....DVN
Jah Kno..dat stay a way me nah lie, but on the other hand, while i don't endorse, support of condone cheating in anyway or form - i somehow can understand with the girl of four years...cuz it's kinda hard after four years of relationship to call it quits and start over - 4 years is alot of time spent knowing someone, their family, the life and i'm sure by this time both theirs lives ahve become intertwined somehow - suh it's just sad, i can understand why she forgave her man...just my 2 cents...
Ryan, be my man and talk dem shit a mi ears. I wait till yu a sleep, sprinkle dove power on you and cut off yu hood.
You can stop ppl from do what ever they want. But i don't want what my man (if i had one) doing be thrown in my face like that
Yeah, I can see with the girl of 4 years. As for the other stories..they are corrupted people. Yes, it is true that this is reality but what kind of life is that to have. I do not understand how these people live this way and I don't think I'm gona try to understand either. I, for one, am not living that way EVER!! Ryan, you also mentioned the toss up between to share or never fuck at all...I pick the latter. Sex is overated anyway....These people need to trust in the Lord more cause if they think they have to put up with these shit in order to have a better life it shows their lack of faith...
LOL..pepsi dat sound hot..wamek yuh a attack me suh?? a nuh me enuh!! anyway, so your saying you would prefer not to know about you man cheating than to be in the know - and openly sharing.
I think it all boils down to "What do women want?"...some women want the nice things...get their hair and nails did without paying for it themselves...and if sharing a man who is married with 3kids is how there gonna get it then they are happy with that..I personally dont understand how they do it...i guess they dont want the complications of an actual monogomous(if thats how its spelt) relationship..they'd rather be #2...or be convinced "oneday" they'll be #1...
In the case of the 4yrs relationship...and i understand her decision..as you said Ryan...its hard to give up 4yrs of hard work...but u also have to think about the trust level after that...
I am not going to share...there are lots of decent men available contrary to popular belief..its just what the women nowadays want why they seem so 'rare' and if he thinks he needs to share himself...then i wont be in the mix...
The consenus seems to be not to share. So I guess most girlz believe that dem man not cheating. The sad fact is they are or have at some point in the relationship. It is easy to say I aint taking it but when the reality hits home, what are you willing to see and not see?
A woman should always believe their intuitions, so even if they are willing to see it or not, your intuition never fails and that's when us as women turn into Inspector Gadget(lol)... with that said you should know if the battle to fight for what's yours (your man) is worth it or if there's a chance homeboy will jump ship if presented with an ultimatum....
If I am in a reltionship where I feel like Im insecure and not sure if my man would chose me over the next pussy then there's no point in staying if I find nout about his infidelity...
MEN>>> be wary, trust and believe there is no fury like a woman scorned.... I have seen some of my most uptight, hightie tightie gf go psycho and plan crazy schemes because of a cheating man....
Im not vindictive and believe in retribution, but not everyone is like me, so men when you do your dirt be conscious of each individual in your life i.e wife, sweetheart, kids and the works... DVN
there's a fine line between real and ideal....females always do that shit no matter what they..
i think the common factor is that the women feel that to stick with the cheating man is the lesser evil to choose, whether the 'greater evil' is no money, no sex, no status, unhappy child(ren),fear of death, no love or even random reasons that make 0 sense(which i guess can also be filed under love).
it certainly isnt anything new tho, i mean, when my grandmother found out my grandfather had basically bred off every woman he met while in england for WWII, she took thier life savings, went to kingston (hey it was a big ting in those days) for 6 months and had a ball leaving my granddad with 8 kids to take care of...and then went back because 'she had pickney to look after'
jus so life go
well, as they say, what you don't know can't hurt you, but i have girlfriends who are in the same situation as those girls, they are involved with some prominent men, who pay the bills, buy them car and stuff - and they don't have a problem with sharing because as they say "they are getting theirs". personally i think it's just a mindset of our deteriotating society. I guess that way the can't get hurt cuz they know they are the "matey" and they are getting paid..
well well............what is left to say, when you have just stated the obvious, i too have known of a couple women who have settled for married man, because they will put u up in the house and buy you the car (needless to say, i don't know how some women settle for second best) where as some women, get a high on just the mere fact that they have peoples man.
This is however, the society we live in and most men just can't satisfy and some women just can't resist the charm. Cheating is wrong in all manner, form or shape and alot of ppl indulge in this act, maybe its fun, maybe the excitement of the possibility of getting caught is a turn on.....I DUNNO
Men are just greedy and a woman could give him her all, he' still gonna find away to find something wrong and go turn to another woman, whereas we women sometimes condone this shit and use our defence as, "he came to me, i didnt go looking for him". Bullshit........this shit is wrong, and i personally don't look at a man, if i find out he has a woman, you can say hi to him, but the sharing dolly house business, not right...
Some women need to realise what being a real woman is, that shit also entails being honest with yourself and others....leave people man alone, find your own, and maybe just maybe, some of these men will grow up and realise you don't need 2 woman, or "gal galore" to feel like a man....
What happen to one man being real and true to one woman(thats the shit right there) not this crap bout one man have ten gal and one gyal have all 5 man.....happiness comes from within.........my 2 cent wether you agree or not, we all say we adults but yet we act like kids......
AMEN tammy......4m tdot, AMEN!!!
Well said Tammy, spoken like a true realist. I endorse what you said 100% but there are times whne the world throws some things at you and you are forced top bend the rules a little.
I strongly believe in leaving ppl man alone. As individuals we have introduced so many compromises into our lives like FFB, and one night stands, and man or woman pan di side and these blur the moral lines.
...just trust ur intuition melly_baby.
I think the likkle man is innocent until proven guilty, yuh have NO facts...girls will say anything to mek ppl and dem man lef!! trust me I 've been dere...girls saying me and dem inna dis and dat!!
Melly_baby sweetie, it seems as if u have already made up your mind, but the more u get suspicious the more unhealthy it is for you. If ur gonna look the other way prepare to always do that....All men cheat, yes, and ur just saying that u r prepared to live with that. That's your decision, still luv u, can't hate you for it. Is it that women fear being alone, dem caa do without sex, what?? Why is it we continue to do this over and over and over. There is no need to run down a man, they always come back, they have to...it is then up to the female right then and there to be a woman, a strong woman that is.....
Ryan, chances are u and the girls dem did always inna dis and dat...
Another thing, it is for a woman to distinguish the husband material from the guys u just want to just sleep with and this is very important. So melly, if the guy is husband material, a not being bias, I say to try ur luck continue with ur relationship.
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