A friend of mine linked me to a very interesting piece of reading material a few days ago. She was marketing a new idea called Act-Rite® which is really a “drink” for men, and I do think this could very much apply to women, who don’t know how to coordinate themselves when dealing with the oposite sex. She made a list of a few things which would result in a man getting himself a tall glass of “Act-Rite®”.
One in particular which stood out was the issue of Fuck Buddies or FFBs for short, and how to operate in such a situation. What are some of the rules that you apply wen it come to dealing with such a situation? Could you be/Have you ever been a FFB?
Me personally, I have been a FFB back in ma old days, most times I even got upgraded..lol..to be the main squeeze (due to my performance), but that was then....wat are you views?
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The FFBs ting is for mature sensible ppl. Ryansean you need to be more specific. Are we talking about two single ppl here or are we talking about the person on the side who dont mind being on the side cuz they got "plenty" of other side orders. "plenty is relative"
chully, I never though of that, I guess I'm talking about both situations, one with two single ppl and the other when one person is involved.
I want to know the rules of such a situation, when the person have the man/woman. I also want to know how many persons have been in such a situation? what are you views on such a situation? Is it healthy - as in can something REAL come from it, seeing that at one point the other person was cheating...who say them not gonna cheat on you too?
lol..ok melly..but no complaints - just wanna ovastand a thing...BIG UP MA EX'S!!
From my understanding of the term 'FFB', it's the same thing as what most white people term, 'lover'. Whether the persons are single or in relationships, these two people hook up for nothing more than casual sex. After such an instance they go back to their normal lives...they may still communicate via email, phone, to set the next sex date. There should be no feelings involved...the minute feelings get in the way it spoils the whole fun of having an FFB. Personally, I object to this FFB thing... which is being ok with the fact that the guy ur sleeping with is sleeping with someone else (in the case where he is not single)... Eventually, though, if feelings get involved maybe the casual relationship will be upgraded to an actual relationship...
my term is "friend with benefits"..
for me personally i really dont care who does it better.. as long as i hav u rippin up the sheets and ish am all good.. in short.. mi jus 'craven' so to speak.. but point is the girl on the side really wants u but she will do anything jus to get wit you.. and its not for mature ppl either.. its bin hapn for years on many different age groups but the person in control has to be mature about it.. i kno.. i'v had my EXPERIENCES
ps. main squeeze is usually di one wid the better oersonality.. in my case that is.. she's di one u bring home to mom without worryin and in few cases the FWB gets upgraded ;)
hiss teet.. fbb to the world!!! ;)Single people do wat they want. screw who they want, be screwed by who they want, as long as they know they can deal with watever shit comes their way after. But for ppl in realtions... hmmm .. nuh do dem tings deh man. nuh fbb or frineds with beneifts for u :-P
Im not into this ish... Cause someone always have to fck it uop and ketch feelings....DVN
ok, so maybe I need to get supn straight...I think Fuck buddies are really FWB but theres a difference, some wat of a great one.
I got another link, which I found really hilarious bout how a Fuck buddy is suppose to act. reffering to the link, its clearly stated tha as a FB ur not suppose to catch no feelins. Its definitely no strips attached...u guys jus fuck n thats all which is not really wat FWBs r cus in that case u guys have established something. in most cases ur frens n u share common interests. U mite like each other but jus think that at the time for watever reason a realtionship isnt the ideal thing.
More than likely as a FWB, ur single n thats becus ur not interested in a relationship but still need fi rip up some sheets/ get ripped up or wat not.
You guess shud jus take a look at this...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3QbyDT9SOec
It will give a clarity to wat a Fuck Buddy is really suppose 2 do.
as 4 livin the reality of the situation, yea, I've been in the situation. Almost had to purchase me a case of Act-Rite(now available on the internet lol) cause I almost stepped outa line. It can be some crazy shit doe...hey Rudi-ann, r u single =)
well...u can merge wat ever u want really but its gonna be too conflicting. The Idea is that we're tryna separate them
...did u read the link attached
Who is a FWb vs a FB?
Peggs ..mature does not mean old. It means someone who is ready and able to handle the complexities of having sex with another individual without "ketching feelings". Someone who can have sex with you just now and while they are leaving the nxt squeeze is passing them on the way in - and the FFB accepts and understands that their time is up and its time for something new. It means having the ability to see your FFB out on the town with another guy/gurl and know that this time and place was not scheduled for them, so they hang tight and hope that they get a 'hello' and if not. See you when I see you.
Being mature and sensible in a FFB relationship means realizing that there is really and truly NO RELATIONSHIP!! We do what we do when we do it and outside of that if we're frenz we'll hang, if not ya gotta speak to ma calender before you even crack a smile at me in public.
I don't fully agree with melly baby. The "fuck buddy" doesn't necessarily perform better than the wifey in the case of female "fuck budies". It may be the case where she is called upon when the wifey is unavailable for e.g. during mentration or if she is off the island etc but not when a man and is wifey are at logger head that is just to upset the wifey and in that case it is definitely wrong.Hence i agree with chulumpz in saying the concept is for mature adults.
However in all honesty the female fuck buddies are the ones who get carried away majority of the time. They are the ones who get emotionally attached majority of the time and start thinking that they are better than the wifey and they can disrespect her...calling the man all insane hrs of the night, wanting to know his where abouts, getting mad when he says he is with wifey and finally crossing the line and calling the wifey and harrassing her. These girls need to know their place and accept the fact that they are ONLY what they are "FUCK BUDDIES" also the men should ensure that they establish the correct boundaries with these girls..let them know immediately just what they are...don't mek dem disrespest yuh wife bossman..if wifey deh pon di right FBB fi walk pon di left...when shi see di man wid him wife gwaan like shi nuh see him...all of this is justification for the concept to be intended only for MATURE ADULTS who can deal with it and are willing to accept it. As for men being "fuck buddies" I have never had one so i really don't know what are the boundaries for them but i would assume its the same where the women need to let the men know that thats all they are and she needs to make sure he doesn't disrespect their husbands.
Thats my two cents ppl...lata
Well, i was almost a FWB, but then i realise it wasnt worth it. Who wants to be a FWB, i think its just a way of using ppl when u dont have no one to f..k with so u find a friend to f..k (in the case of two single ppl)although if u think about it maybe i was using the person also.
but y waste my time being FWB and i can find a man who can give me everyday and be committed to.
FWB or FB is just not worth it, cuz all we do is f..king and i want the whole package.
i frankly like it cause it teaches u new ways to please ur partner so if u lacking in one area u can learn i have had 2 and it was fun i learned new positions new ways 2 make mi man cum is a good thing so big up to d ffbs out there unu ratings up deah and besides if u man a dis at lest u have one on d side u can depend on if any thing......... lol
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