According to the mirriam-webster dictionary ‘ex’ is a preposition meaning out of, free from, one that formerly held a specified position or place; especially : a former spouse. With that out of the way why the hell girls or guys don’t accept the fact that after the relationship done it done, this is why you are an ‘ex’.
I know some of you must have been through the ‘ex-effect’, you know, that one former beau who just won’t leave you alone. Somehow, they just have to try and find a way into your life or business, whether it is talking to your friends and always asking them about you or telling them tales of how you ‘didn’t love or appreciate them’.
Women tend to be more emotional after a break-up and some tend to keep the person somewhere in there body (they say heart but it couldn’t be there) and sometimes cause a lot of trouble especially if you move on with someone else.
With that said, how many of you have ever “ex” perienced this case of the ex (as Mya puts it), where the ex just won’t let go, won’t move on and would do anything that they possibly can to make your life a living hell, they would even go as far as to spread rumors and cause troubles for you and your current mate. I’ve know quite a few persons who have had the trouble, restraining orders, stalking, even phone calls stating “I hope you just enjoyed your KFC lunch” (keeping in mind the person just finished eating his KFC with his friends, with no sign of the ex in sight).
Well, I guess you can’t take it in two fold, either some people just can’t move on or your “uku-bit” was well tight to hold him right. Well I like to think the latter; I like to think that I was so good (not only in bed) that she just couldn’t or can’t get enough. What are you thoughts?
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It is so pathetic when males or females tend to hang on to a previous relationship knowing that the other person has moved on. Sometimes they hang on because they convince themselves that the person still have feelings for them. In some cases, though feelings might still be there but if they are bold enough to move on and flaunt someone else in your face, might as well u let go off that relationship. Yeah, it might be hard, but everone has been through having an ex or being an ex.....for me I just listen to daddy screw "When u lef a man u no tek him back"...must be a good reason why I left him in the first place...
A friend of mine, let’s call her Gina, has been in a relationship with a man for over three years. For most of that time she’s seems as though she’s been miserable. During this time, I’ve watched my friend who was once upbeat, outgoing and who always had a smile to share become withdrawn and solemn. Gina does not have any children, is not married to this man and maintains her own residence and finances. When we speak, she’ll tell me this man makes her unhappy and the relationship is going no where. I’ll ask her why she stays and she answers “Our past was great.” What I remember of her relationship is that she was giddy for the first six months of it. This is quite normal, in that we typically do not notice an individual’s negative qualities during the initial “romantic phase” of a relationship. After that, I started to hear more and more complaints about “Mr. Wonderful.” In my observation, through the course of her relationship, her self-esteem has plummeted. Ending a relationship is usually never easy because good, bad and everything in-between, it’s still a loss and losses hurts. Most people are passive about ending unhealthy relationships hoping the other partner will call it quits, while others take a more active stance and initiate the end.
Likewise the "ex-factor" exist most times when person can't move on or try to find someone who is similar".......all in all some ppl just too emotional that my take still...
yeah yute, I been on the receivin end of the ex-effect. I had one ex who called me evry single dat for a week askin me to get bac wid her...she jus wudn take no n she jus wudn stop. I gave in eventually but it wasn long after that we split again. We still cool doe, we halla at each other evry now n den. She'll never admit it, but I did her good LOL! reaaal good, she jus cudn get enough.
her current bf is havin issues wid her havin me as a fren doe, personally i think its cus he's insecure but mi nah trouble dem really n d more he pushes her to cut me off is the more he's pushin her on me n him doe even realize seh a dat him a do
I have been on the receiving end of this one...as I write this. Imagine you decide to call it quits with this dude (late 2006) and you both decided to go your separate way because it was just not working out. All well that ends well right!! Wrong…
One year later my phone starts to blow up at some ridiculous hours of the night saying how he misses me and wants me back after a year (2007) of us not even communicating at all. Since the beginning of the New Year he calls every single day, some times as much as 5 times.
I am no longer felling this man, I am enjoying my life and really have no intention of letting him back in. I tried to let him down easy but he has become real annoying. I refuse to return his calls, hence he bitches about why he is the only one that calls and why I can’t call…..duhh. I basically had to block his numbers and still he calls from other person’s phone. I even tell him that I will call back after a couple minutes and never call back but he still continues to call…..
If it done, it done. When you become an ‘ex’ and ‘when yuh left a man, nuh tek him back.’ There had to be a reason why you left in the first place, just move on with your life. Hopefully he gets it soon and disappear again, one can only hope.
Besides, it only makes the person out to be pathetic and annoyingly so when they refuse to smell the burnt coffee right under their nose.
Losing someone u love is probably one of the worst experiences in life. Even if you never loved the person, the lost is still difficult, esp. for someone who wasn't prepared for it, this means you have to alter your life forever..and that change is usually difficult to imagine and accept.
Anywhooo as difficult as the change maybe, i don't believe ppl shud show their weakness, vulnerability or become vindictive after a break-up. This i think is no benefit to you and only brings your ex (the one who has moved on) atleast some pleasure & satisfaction.
As good as mi man was, I've learnt that he doesn't need to know that, I cried sleepless nights, was depressed for several weeks, and even lost my appetite.
The fact is that every relationship has an end. People come into our lives either for a reason, a season, or for a lifetime. Learn your lesson and move on!
I currently have a situation where my X doesn't wanna let it go. We've been on and off for about 7 years now and in my eyes we are DONE. My X was always the one in the wrong everytime we broke up and use to let me know that if I think I can find someone better then I should go right ahead.
Now that we are a part, he texts and calls my phone constantly throughout the days, calls my friends and shows up at my house looking for me. It gets a little scary when he decides to leave messages on my phone letting me know that "this is killing him, he can't keep going through this and he's gonna kill himself."
Ladies (and men too), when someone tells you this, yes be concerned because you care (and prolly still love them) but also be aware. Because if they are talking about harming themself because of pain that you are so called causing them because of the break-up, then most likely they will harm you too.
I haven't allowed myself to speak or see my X since I cut him off, not because I can't bear it but because I know thats the only way to get him out of my life. It's 2008 and I have big plans and goals for this year.
For all the people in my X's position. Don't try to force yourself on someone that obviously don't wanna be with you anymore. Pray about it and just try to "LET IT GO!!!!"
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